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Tuesday, June 23, 2020

BRAIN TRAIN!! Depression in Divorce Doesn't Work!


For all of those people out there that are already depressed, agitated, overly anxious, or anything close, please realize that since none of those states of mind will help you get through a bad time, it's best to instead channel the negativity into something that can manifest a clearer thinking train of thought.

While this will not be overly fast or easy, it will be worth it. One of the first things you can do is to not think  of what you don't want--- think only about what you DO want. 

After you have managed to stop yourself from being overly negative, you can test yourself every day.. this can be done by catching yourself with negative or anxious thoughts and saying "cancel, cancel" and then immediately saying a positive version instead. Attorney has long known that the brain can be trained but it takes effort. If you believe you deserve something better, then believe it wholeheartedly, and go after it.  It serves no purpose to continue to think in the negative because that will only bolster a negative result.

Amazingly, one must really want the desired outcome to manifest it. Winning a lotto, while on the surface would seem wholeheartedly positive, actually has many negatives within it over time.
Many lotto winners end up on a pile of rubbish and have no friends. So don't believe that just because something on the surface seems great and wonderful, that it will always be that way.

Nothing stays the same, and training your brain to learn acceptance will, with time, change your life. You don't have to believe me, it's all true and widely known over the centuries through time.

And on that note, if you have no clue as to how to learn "acceptance" [which basically means learning not to judge everything], I recommend the book by John Ruskan, Emotional Clearing, particularly the section on acceptance.  I have had clients tell me that the book changed their lives, and I believe it.

Family law, divorce, and court can make people feel awful! But even so, learning not to label everything and acquiring the ability to learn acceptance at a certain level can actually change your life. I have given the books out to clients and many of them have even told me the book changed their way of thinking, and one client even said it saved his life. So if it could change your LIFE-- it might be worth it to get the book!!!!