Let's be clear, shall we?
IF you do have a challenging, complex, difficult, or terrible case, there are often several reasons WHY............
ONE: the other party purposely made it this way and you were too weak to defend yourself
TWO: You spent all your money on an attorney you THOUGHT would help you and you found out this, in fact, was not true...
THREE: You failed to follow the orders that were made and got into trouble??
FOUR: either you or the ex is on meds, and the meds for whatever reason, did not work, and you or ex messed up and violated a court order??
FIVE: YOU understood the custody order but the ex violated it and you filed a motion and you LOST?
SIX: You waited too long to modify your case and now the statute has passed?
SEVEN: YOU lost custody due to drugs and your spouse isn't on drugs but is a felon?
EIGHT: You never had a job for longer than 7 months and when you got a good job, you couldn't pay the support after you lost the good job?
NINE: You ignored the order to pay spousal and now your arrears are excessive
TEN: YOU never hired an attorney or you hired the wrong attorney, or you believed you didn't need an attorney because the case "wasn't that hard??